What can I do for a person in an old folks home?

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I met the nicest 97 year old lady who has nobody to visit her. My friends and I want to send her cards and visit her. What else could we do for her? She has no lawn to mow, and I can’t think of very many other things. She uses a walker and hearing aids, she’s also very smart-but she seems unhappy in the home. She’s only been there for four months (so she’s been living on her own till 96)! Any suggestions?

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Answer by Gre R
Just sit with her and talk. Nothing else you could do would mean more to her.

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6 Responses to “What can I do for a person in an old folks home?”

  1. Jill ♥2♥ says:

    Could you possibly take her out during the day for a change of scene or sit outdoors in the shade. Take her little treats ~ Nursing homes are so very different then your own home and your own stuff. No wonder she seems unhappy, yet she can be good company to you and your friends and not complain because she doesn’t want to lose friends by complaining about what she must except.~~ God Bless you for being there for her. There is a reason your paths have crossed. I can’t help but admire you, your friends and this wonderful new friend of yours.

  2. S says:

    Your time. Your time spent visiting her. Just don’t tire her out.Have her reminisce. Ask her about all the wonderful things she saw and experienced in her life.If you just showed up once a week it would give her something to look forward too. Rent the movie Fried Green Tomatoes to see how these visits can enrich both your lives. You are an angel.

  3. SCOTT says:

    sit and talk with her, send her cards. talk to the staff; if there are functions for residents and their family ask if you could be family her. holidays are hard for people like her who have no one, try and do something special at those times; with permission sing carols for her and other residents. when you are seen with your friend, then do for others they will tell her how nice you were. that will male her feel good.

  4. Milton says:

    Yes, find out if you can take her for day trips to a restaurant once a month. Eating institutional food would cause me to jump out the window! I guess that is why so many of these homes are one story buildings. You can’t commit suicide by jumping up!

    Also, visit just ot talk and if her mind and eyes are still fine, books may be welcome and if just her mind is, you could read a good novel to her. Maybe arrange to take her out to vote in November as well unless they have ballots brought in. If she was living independently until a few months ago, her problems are probably just ambulatory and she could fall if she was in her home.

  5. Sew What? says:

    Keep visiting. Find out what she’s been interested in during her life and maybe you could share that interest.

  6. Lynn says:

    She probably would like frequent visits from people who care about her. Other than
    seeing people in the dining room for meals, she’s apt to feel lonely. You can only
    watch so much TV during the day. They never have enough or any activities for
    the seniors living in homes. I know that from experience in living in them. And it’s very
    hard to entertain oneself, so boredom sets in soon enough.
    Another thing she might be missing are tasty treats. People visiting usually have to
    provide those, since the management usually doesn’t provide those. Maybe a sweet
    dessert now and then, but that’s not the norm. I know a treat from Dairy Queen or
    another ice cream outlet is always appreciated. And it’s actually a special event to
    get such a treat. So something in the sweet line, would be a welcome addition to her
    day, if she’s not diabetic. And if she is, they do have sugar free treats one can buy.
    So company, and things for the sweet tooth are my recommendations.

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